Are you and your partner stuck in conflict? Do you or your partner resort to criticism or shutting down during conflict? When you aren't arguing, you may feel emotionally distant or disconnected, like you are leading separate lives.
I help partners restore understanding, trust, and intimacy through the following evidence-based methods:
Gottman Method Couples Therapy helps you overcome disconnection through structured, scientifically-based interventions designed to teach skills to deepen your friendship, manage conflict effectively, and create shared meaning and purpose. These skills are proven to reduce the likelihood of infidelity, breakup, and divorce.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps you build a close, healthy, and trusting relationship by first finding out where you and your partner get stuck when you communicate, and then by helping each of you to identify your needs and to express them in healthier ways to your partner so that you can be there for each other. As a result, you each feel more understood and accepted; and you also feel more supported. This method has proved remarkably successful in actively reducing relationship distress during therapy and also in preventing relapse to old habits after therapy is complete.
Often, a relationship therapist will use only one or the other of the above methods. This can be effective for many people. However, my clients often find it particularly helpful that I integrate both of these methods, which results in an individualized approach tailored to the particular background, preferences, and goals of each person.
In addition to these well-tested methods, I bring warmth, humor, and compassion to the process, honoring that challenges are inherent to each relationship and that it takes courage and commitment to enter relationship therapy.
My mission is to help partners heal and strengthen their relationship, period. That includes culturally responsive care for those who have been historically marginalized due to their gender, sex, or sexuality. I provide affirmative care for LGBTQ+, consensual non-monogamy (CNM)/polyamory, and kink/fetish/BDSM populations. This is a safe place.
I look forward to helping you strengthen your relationship.
Areas of focus
• Emotional closeness
• Sex and sexuality (see Sex Therapy)
• Navigating conflict
• Infidelity and affair recovery
• On the brink of separation/divorce (see Discernment Counseling)
• LGBTQ+ relationships
• Kink, fetish & BDSM
• Consensual non-monogamy/polyamory
Session length & total amount
• Initial session = 75 minutes ($250)
• Subsequent sessions = 75 minutes ($190)
Please cancel or reschedule at least 48 hours in advance. This is requested because a time commitment is made to you and is held exclusively for you. If cancellation or rescheduling occurs within 48 hours of the scheduled start time of your session, you are responsible for the full session fee.
When is relationship therapy not appropriate?
• When there is danger of intimate partner violence (IPV)
• When there is an active, ongoing affair
• When one partner is pressuring another partner to participate
• When one partner is highly ambivalent about the future of the relationship (if so, see Discernment Counseling)
How do we get started?
It all begins with a free, 20-minute phone consultation to see if working together is a good fit. If it is a good fit, I'll get you scheduled as soon as possible so you can get started. You may wish to review the FAQs before our call. If you're ready, click Get Started to schedule your initial phone consultation.