Online therapist - Makarios Tabo

It's all about connection

I have come to believe that life is all about connection, and that experiencing a fulfilled life is all about how we connect with ourselves, with other people, and with the world around us. This realization is based on my professional experience, as well as my own journey in life.

I have experienced seasons of life surrounded by friends, yet felt isolated. I have been in stable relationships, yet struggled to let my protective walls down enough to love, or be loved, as my true self. I have felt alienated from the person I wanted to be because I could not connect with my own feelings, needs, and values. I believe that all humans have experienced these broken connections. It is our ability to restore these broken relationships and effectively cultivate new, healthy ones that is central to alleviating emotional pain and thriving to our full potential. It is this hope that drives my work with couples.

My career thus far has spanned many eclectic and challenging roles. As a young graduate, I worked at a community mental health center where I facilitated the day program for adults with severe and persistent mental illnesses. With the profound way that their illnesses affected their daily lives, I noted that consistent and trusting relationships were their refuge and the most therapeutic gift that I could offer.

 

I later worked with men and women who were experiencing homelessness and living with HIV/AIDS to help them acquire stable housing and live a healthy lifestyle. Again, the importance of trust, consistency, and a relationship of positive regard for each person was vital to helping them overcome social isolation and to maintain gains in their self care. Around the same time, I assisted refugees from Eritrea. For these refugees who had experienced hardship in their home country, the importance of connection in their new community was salient.

I then worked for four years with people experiencing substance use disorders, which further convinced me that we are hardwired for social connection. Much of my work with those in recovery was done in groups. I soon discovered that group therapy is a microcosm of the world outside of therapy. Given a safe and supportive environment, people whose relationships were previously mediated by their need for a psychoactive substance are able to learn new and rewarding ways of relating to one another and themselves through the group experience. The opposite of addiction is not just abstinence; it is healthy human connection.  

The centrality of healthy human relationships led me to my work with couples, which has only reinforced the importance of connection. What I have found is that partners entrenched in conflict often resort to being critical, defensive, or “shutting down” when their bond has been weakened with their partner or if they feel unable to soothe their own emotions during conflict. It is immensely rewarding to help couples re-connect, deepen their friendship, and create a sense of shared meaning. As a relationship heals, each partner in that relationship heals.

No one is born socially adept. We all struggle. As I mentioned above, I have struggled with my own relationships in uncomfortable and sometimes painful ways. It is our capacity for growth that matters. It is every small insight that improves my ability to form authentic connections that has made my life one that I am excited to live.

What can you expect to experience when working with me? No matter what your need or goal, the most important part of therapy is the relationship between the therapist and client—the “therapeutic alliance.” I am committed to bringing empathy, compassion, and presence to each session, so that the connection we build can serve as a working model for other concerns and aspirations. Often, the first step in the therapeutic process is reconnecting with one’s aspirations, feelings, and needs—and even an awareness of the present moment itself. I work with diverse therapeutic models which allows me to individualize the care each couple receives based on their background and goals. I encourage you to explore my website to learn more about these models. You may also wish to look below to see more about my professional credentials, background, and affiliations.

When I'm not cultivating connections in my sessions, I'm passionate about experiencing connection in my own life by spending time with my wife of nine years, my family or my friends, as well as spending time with hobbies I enjoy, such as hiking, playing piano, or composing haiku—all of which are attempts to connect with relationships and the present moment as fully as possible. 

I look forward to meeting you and discovering how our work together can deepen the connections in your life.

- Makarios

Certification
Licensure 
Education
Professional Affiliations

Licensed Independent Social Worker - Clinical Practice

License Number: 11510

South Carolina Board of Social Work Examiners

Out-of-State Telehealth Provider

Registration Number: TPSW90

Florida Department of Health

Licensure &
Registration
Certification

Certified Discernment Counselor

The Doherty Relationship Institute

Certified PREPARE/ENRICH Facilitator

Master Addiction Counselor

National Certification Commission for Addiction Professionals

Professional Affiliations

South Carolina Society for

Clinical Social Work

International Centre for Excellence

in Emotionally Focused Therapy

Association for Contextual

Behavioral Science

Education

Master of Social Work, 2015

University of South Carolina

 

Bachelor of Science,

Psychology and Philosophy, 2006

Northeastern University