It's all about connection.

I have come to believe that life is all about connection, and that experiencing a fulfilled life is all about how we connect with ourselves, with other people, and with the world around us. This realization is based on my professional experience, as well as my own journey in life.

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I have experienced seasons of life surrounded by friends, yet felt isolated. I have been in stable relationships, yet struggled to let my protective walls down enough to love, or be loved, as my true self. I have felt alienated from the person I wanted to be because I could not connect with my own feelings, needs, and values. I believe that all humans have experienced these broken connections. It is our ability to restore these broken relationships and effectively cultivate new, healthy ones that is central to alleviating emotional pain and thriving to our full potential. It is this possibility that drives my work with intimate partner relationships.

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My career thus far has spanned many eclectic and challenging roles. As a young graduate, I worked at a community mental health center where I facilitated the day program for adults with severe and persistent mental illnesses. With the profound way that their illnesses affected their daily lives, I noted that consistent and trusting relationships were their refuge and the most therapeutic gift that I could offer.

 

I later worked with people who were experiencing homelessness and living with HIV/AIDS to help them acquire stable housing and live a healthy lifestyle. Again, the importance of trust, consistency, and a relationship of positive regard for each person was vital to helping them overcome social isolation and to maintain gains in their self care. Around the same time, I assisted refugees from Eritrea. For these refugees who had experienced hardship in their home country, the importance of connection in their new community was salient.

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I then worked for four years with people experiencing substance use disorders, which further convinced me that we are hardwired for social connection. Much of my work with those in recovery was done in groups. I soon discovered that group therapy is a microcosm of the world outside of therapy. Given a safe and supportive environment, people whose relationships were previously mediated by their need for a psychoactive substance are able to learn new and rewarding ways of relating to one another and themselves through the group experience. The opposite of addiction is not just abstinence; it is healthy human connection.  

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The centrality of healthy human relationships led me to my work with intimate partner relationships, which has only reinforced the importance of connection. What I have found is that partners entrenched in conflict often resort to being critical, defensive, or “shutting down” when their bond has been weakened with their partner or if they feel unable to soothe their own emotions during conflict. The ability to identify your feelings and needs -- and convey them to your partner -- also translates to sexual health and intimacy. It is immensely rewarding to help partners re-connect, enhance their sexual intimacy, and create a sense of shared meaning. As a relationship heals, each partner in that relationship heals.

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No one is born socially adept. We all struggle. As I mentioned above, I have struggled with my own relationships in uncomfortable and sometimes painful ways. It is our capacity for growth that matters. It is every small insight that improves my ability to form authentic connections that has made my life one that I am excited to live.

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What can you expect to experience when working with me? No matter what your need or goal, the most important part of therapy is the relationship between you and your therapist—the “therapeutic alliance.” I am committed to bringing empathy, compassion, and presence to each session, which gives us a solid foundation for your concerns and aspirations. Often, the first step in our work is reconnecting with your aspirations, feelings, and needs—and even an awareness of the present moment itself. I use various time-tested models of therapy, which allows me to personalize your care based on your background and goals. I encourage you to explore my website to learn more about these models. You may want to look below to see more about my professional credentials, background, and affiliations.

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When I'm not cultivating connections in my sessions, I'm passionate about experiencing connection in my own life by spending time with my partner of 13 years, my family and friends, as well as spending time hiking, cooking, or playing piano—all of which are attempts to connect with relationships and the present moment as fully as possible. 

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I look forward to meeting you and discovering how our work together can deepen the connections in your own life.

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- Makarios

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