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Better communication.

 More intimacy.

Relationship & Sex Therapy  

You're struggling to communicate.

Arguing isn't fun. Walking on eggshells is exhausting and lonely

Sex is stressful. Don't settle. 

 

You can feel close and connected -- with more intimacy. 

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 "I help couples and polycules reclaim their capacity for joy, pleasure, and connection." 

- MB Tabor (she/her)

I use these time-tested
methods to help you
improve your relationship(s):

How I Can Help You

Happy Couple

Improve your communication skills and learn how to navigate your differences so you can feel close and connected. 

Happy Couple

Sexual Issues
and Concerns

Shift from a focus on performance, 'getting it right', and self-consciousness to a focus on pleasure and connection. 

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If your relationship is on the brink, you need clarity. If you or your partner are unsure about the future of your relationship, this is for you.

How It Works

Step 1

 

Schedule Consultation.

Complete a free, 20-minute phone consultation to ensure I'm the best fit for you.

Step 2

 

Learn How to Communicate.

Identify your feelings and needs, and express them to your partner(s).

Step 3

 

Feel Close;

More Intimacy. 

From an understanding of each other's feelings and needs, intimacy emerges.

What You Should Know About Me

It's important that you feel comfortable with your therapist.

 

Below are some things to know about me and my practice to ensure I'm the best fit for you

100% Virtual.
 

Online therapy is convenient and effective. All sessions via secure, HIPAA-compliant video platform.

SC & NC Residents.

Affirmative Care.

QTPOC and LGBTQIA+ affirmative care: with experience and training to support your needs. You are not just welcome, you are affirmed.

Intentionally Small Practice.

You deserve personalized care. I maintain a small practice so I can provide you with individualized care and attention -- every session.

Sex Positive.

Sex is a natural and normal part of human functioning. Affirmative care for kink/fetish/BDSM & CNM/poly folx.

Secular, Non-Religious Approach.

Clinical interventions that are compatible with diverse worldviews, whether you identify as atheist, agnostic, spiritual, or religious.

Anti-Racist.

As a white therapist, I critically examine how power, privilege, and implicit biases impact our work.

Lastly, it's personal: I live this out in my personal life, daily. No, I'm not perfect, but I practice these principles with my partner of 13 years because I believe in it deeply, and it works.

  • Are you accepting new clients right now?
    I regret that I am not currently accepting new clients. I have a waiting list (estimate of 1 month to begin services). I intentionally maintain a small practice to ensure I can provide the highest quality of care possible. To get on the waiting list, follow these simple steps: Text or call me at 864-319-3360 to schedule a free, 20-minute phone consultation. Complete the free, 20-minute phone consultation to ensure it's a good fit. As space becomes available, I'll contact you to schedule our initial session. - Last updated June 20, 2024
  • Can we meet in the evening after work (or the early morning before work)?
    I meet with clients Monday - Friday during the following time slots: 12:00 noon - 1:15 pm 1:45 pm - 3:00 pm 3:30 pm - 4:45 pm I limit my sessions to these hours in order to have a healthy balance in my own life, especially with my partner. This allows me to show up in the healthiest manner possible for you, each and every session.
  • Do you work with individuals?
    No, just intimate partner relationships. This focus and specialization helps me offer the best care possible.
  • Do you work with kids, adolescents, or families?
    No, I only work with intimate partner relationships - couples and polycules. Some therapists work with people across the lifespan; other specialize. My training, experience, and focus is in working with intimate partnerships. This sometimes involves parenting issues, of course, but I refer out to a child/adolescent therapist if your child needs help, or I refer out to a family therapist if that is needed.
  • What if I'm not sure if I should stay in a relationship?
    If you're unsure about your commitment level, or if you're not sure that therapy can help your relationship, relationship therapy may not be the best fit for you at this time. If you or your partner are contemplating separation, Discernment Counseling may be a better fit for you. Regardless, I can provide a phone consultation to help you explore the options available to you, so you can receive the appropriate support.
  • Will you encourage us to separate or divorce?
    No. During relationship or sex therapy, the assumption is that each partner wants to work on the relationship, so my stance will be to support you in doing that. It's not a 'compatibility test'. If one of you is ambivalent about staying in the relationship, Discernment Counseling takes a more nuanced stance in order to respect the complexity of your situation. See the Discernment Counseling page for more info.
  • What if my partner won't come to therapy?
    You have a few options, which depend on the reason your partner is not interested in joining you for therapy. If your partner is ambivalent about the relationship itself and is considering separation/divorce, you may be a good fit for Discernment Counseling. If, however, your partner is simply unsure about the need for therapy, or if they are uncomfortable with the idea of it, you can see if they are willing to at least do a phone consultation. You can also explore seeing an individual therapist to make changes on your own, which may inspire your partner to join you for relationship therapy. Regardless, I am happy to provide a phone consultation to help you explore your options.
  • Are you a Christian counselor?
    No, I use clinical, evidence-based interventions that are compatible with diverse belief systems. Many of my clients are Christian; many are atheists or agnostic; some belong to other spiritual or religious traditions, such as Buddhism, among other faith traditions. I affirm you and your worldview, and I want to be here to support you, whether you identify as atheist, agnostic, spiritual, or religious. There are many Christian counselors in South Carolina who are specifically trained and equipped to incorporate the Christian faith in the counseling process. This process is also sometimes known as 'pastoral counseling'. Some pastoral counselors, of course, are equipped to incorporate other faith traditions in their work, though less so, perhaps, in South Carolina than in other areas. If it's important to you to find someone who has training and experience as a Christian or pastoral counselor, I am happy to provide a referral if you have any difficulty locating one.
  • Will you respect my religious or spiritual beliefs?
    Yes. As a therapist, my role is to incorporate your worldview into the therapy process. I will respect and honor you or your beliefs. Although I am not trained in any type of pastoral counseling, we will do our best to incorporate your belief system into our work together. I use clinical, evidence-based interventions that are compatible with diverse belief systems. Many of my clients are Christian; many are atheists or agnostic; some belong to other spiritual or religious traditions, such as Buddhism or Hinduism. I affirm you and your worldview, and I want to be here to support you, whether you identify as atheist, agnostic, spiritual, or religious. There are many Christian counselors in South Carolina who are specifically trained and equipped to incorporate the Christian faith in the counseling process. This process is also sometimes known as 'pastoral counseling'. Some pastoral counselors, of course, are equipped to incorporate other faith traditions in their work, though less so, perhaps, in South Carolina than in other areas. If it's important to you to find someone who has training and experience as a Christian or pastoral counselor, I am happy to provide a referral if you have any difficulty locating one.
  • Do you work with clients of color? How about interracial relationships?
    Yes, it's a delight to work with communities of color as well as interracial relationships. To help you decide if I'm a good fit for you, I'll share that I use a multicultural, anti-oppressive framework in my work. Nevertheless, despite my aspirations, I can't promise a "safe space" where I will never misstep. No one can promise that. What I can promise, however, is a sincere commitment to the following: developing a healthy sense of myself as both white *and* anti-racist, including continued work on examining how my implicit biases, privilege, and power can impact my role as your therapist. co-creating a space with you where your trust in the therapy process is not assumed at the outset, but built gradually. cultivating a relationship with you where there is enough trust and goodwill such that, if harm is done inadvertently, repair is possible.
  • Do you support members of the QTPOC community?
    Yes, you can expect affirming therapy for QTPOC (Queer and Trans People of Color). People of color who are queer and/or trans have a unique lived experience. This is a place were you are not just welcome, you're affirmed.
  • Do you support members of the LGBTQIA+ community?
    Yes, you can expect LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy. I have experience and training specific to the needs of the LGBTQIA+ community - that includes affirmative care for those who have been historically marginalized due to their gender, sex, or sexuality. This is a place were you are not just welcome, you're affirmed.
  • Do you support those in consensual non-monogamous (CNM) relationships?
    Yes, I support people’s right to consensually define their relationship structure in whatever way they choose. I provide affirmative care for various relationship structures, including swinging, open relationships, poly, and relationship anarchy, among others. This is a place where you and your relationship(s) are not just welcome, they're affirmed.
  • Are you sex-positive, BDSM & kink friendly?
    Yes, I'm a sex-positive therapist. Sex and sexuality are central parts of the human experience. I support people’s right to sexual fantasies and expression in whatever way they choose, as long as it's consensual (with those able to give full consent). Your sexual identity and expression are not just welcome, they're affirmed.
  • Do you work with people who are neurodiverse?
    Although it's not my specialty, some of my clients are neurodiverse. It's an area of growth for me. If you or your partner(s) are neurodiverse, we can discuss whether my training and experience is enough to give you the best care possible. If not, we can explore alternatives to ensure you get the best care.
  • Do you offer in-person sessions at your office?
    No, my practice is exclusively online. If you are set on having in-person sessions, there are other qualified relationship therapists in the area who offer in-person sessions. If you are unable to locate them, call me and I would be happy to provide a referral. All my sessions are conducted through a secure, HIPAA-compliant platform. Online therapy is convenient and effective. On your end, it will feel like a Zoom or Skype call, but the platform is more secure. I am happy to guide you through the process.
  • Do you offer online therapy?
    Yes, for residents of South Carolina and North Carolina. In fact, I only offer online therapy. All my sessions are conducted through a secure, HIPAA-compliant platform. On your end, it will feel like a Zoom or Skype call, but the platform is more secure.
  • Is online therapy effective?
    Yes! Research indicates that telehealth sessions are just as useful as in-person sessions for individuals. There is less research available on the effectiveness of telehealth for relationship therapy, but the research that is available is promising. In my own experience, I’ve found that many people prefer telehealth. Why? 1. It's convenient: you don't have to commute to my office, which saves you time. 2. You're in your own environment, which is comforting for many people (especially if you have pets!). 3. You're less likely to need a babysitter.
  • What technology do I need for online therapy?
    You will need a few things to ensure our online sessions are successful: 1. A computer, tablet, or smartphone; 2. A stable internet connection; 3. A private location. That's it!
  • How do I know if you're the right therapist for me?
    Finding the right therapist is a very personal decision. When choosing a therapist, there are many factors to consider. Training and experience are important factors; so is your comfort level with the therapist. Fortunately, we have many excellent relationship therapists in the area, so I am happy to support you in finding the right person for you if, for whatever reason, we are not a good fit. Of course, I'd be honored to find out if I am the right person for your needs. I maintain a small practice and work with a limited number of clients in order to ensure the best quality of care - this also takes the pressure off, since it allows us to make sure it’s truly a good fit if we do decide to work together. Check out the rest of my website to learn more about me, my background, and my work. If you are ready to see if we're a good fit, the next step is to schedule a free, initial phone consultation. Get started.
  • How often do we meet?
    In the beginning, weekly is best. If we can't do weekly, we need to meet at least every other week at the start of our work. This gives focus to our work and helps you get the most out of our sessions. You want to have time between sessions to implement what you’ve learned, but not so much time that we lose momentum. After a strong foundation is built, we transition to meet less often, such as every other week, then every four weeks. I often joke that my goal is to become obsolete, but it’s true! As soon as I become obsolete, it means our work together has been successful.
  • How long is each session?
    75 minutes. This length of time allows you to get the most out of our sessions while remaining focused - it's about efficiency and effectiveness. Please note that, unlike relationship and sex therapy, Discernment Counseling begins with a 2-hour initial session, then subsequent sessions are 90 minutes.
  • How long will I be in therapy?
    Therapy length depends on your goals and the complexity of your case. Some prefer to address short-term goals over the course of 3-6 months; others want to address the underlying issues that make communication, emotional connection, sexual intimacy, or conflict difficult to navigate, which requires more time (6 months or more). It is important to note that intimate partners who seek therapy usually find themselves entrenched in unhealthy communication patterns that have been established over the course of many years, so it is not an overnight journey. At the same time, your time and money are valuable, not to mention your emotional energy. I strive to help people in as brief a period of time as possible while respecting the complexity of the issues. During the course of our work together, I will provide my professional recommendation as to the length of our work together; however, you are free to end therapy at any time. If you need additional clarity, we can discuss it further during our phone consultation or in our first meeting to ensure we are on the same page. Please note that, unlike relationship or sex therapy, Discernment Counseling is a short-term interventions of up to 5 sessions.
  • What is the total amount per session?
    Relationship and Sex Therapy: All Sessions = $250 for 75-minute sessions Discernment Counseling: Initial Assessment = $400 for initial 2-hour session Subsequent Sessions = $300 for 90-minute sessions
  • Do you have a reduced rate or sliding scale?
    No, I don't have a reduced rate or sliding scale. Please don't let the session amount stop you from pursuing therapy. The following organizations offer reduced rates: EMERGE (a teaching clinic) and Open Path (a nonprofit network).
  • Is therapy worth the investment?
    Relationship and sex therapy are not inexpensive - but, they're effective. Like anything else, it is important for you to consider how important your goals are to you in order to determine if the investment is worthwhile for you. You need to weigh the potential benefits if you do therapy against the potential outcomes if you don't do therapy. I believe wholeheartedly in the usefulness of our work together - that’s why I do it! - and one of my core beliefs is to always offer more value than I receive in compensation (that way, everyone wins).
  • Do you accept insurance?
    No, I am self-pay only. Unfortunately, insurance companies require a mental health diagnosis to reimburse for therapy, and there is no diagnosis code that is reimbursable by insurance companies for relationship therapy. In relationship therapy, there is not one patient with a presenting problem; instead, partners are working together on their relationship issues. I can provide you with a Superbill, which is a receipt. In theory, you can then submit the Superbill to your insurance company, who may reimburse a portion of your payment. However, I would not count on your insurance company to reimburse you for the reasons stated above.
  • Will relationship therapy be reimbursed by my insurance company?
    Relationship therapy is not typically covered by insurance companies. Insurance companies require a mental health diagnosis to reimburse for therapy; unfortunately, there is no diagnosis code that is reimbursable by insurance companies for relationship therapy. In relationship therapy, there is not one patient with a presenting problem; instead, partners are working together on their relationship issues. I can provide you with a Superbill, which is a receipt. In theory, you can then submit the Superbill to your insurance company, who may reimburse a portion of your payment. However, I would not count on your insurance company to reimburse you for the reasons stated above.
  • What if I need to reschedule?
    No problem. If you cancel or reschedule your session with at least 48 business hours’ notice, there is no fee. If you cancel or reschedule within 48 business hours of your scheduled time, or if you do not show for your scheduled appointment, you will be charged the rate of your scheduled session. If it's a true emergency, that's a different story. Why the charge? The late-cancellation charge is there because I set aside a specific time just for you. I work with intimate partners, so it’s difficult to coordinate with partners to use that time slot with such short notice.
  • What payment methods do you accept?
    All major credit cards (i.e., Visa, Mastercard, American Express, Discover). For ease and convenience, your card will be automatically charged at the beginning of each session through the secure, online portal.
  • Can I use my Health Savings Account (HSA) or Flexible Spending Account (FSA)?
    Most HSA/FSA accounts come with a debit card that is linked to the account (or you reimburse yourself from the account). On my end, I am able to charge your card just as I would with a credit card. It is up to you, however, to check with your accountant and your HSA/FSA administrator to determine whether or not the services rendered are considered a qualified medical expense.
  • Are you on social media?
    No, I'm not on any social media platforms - either personally or professionally. I find that my life and my work are more balanced without it. If this ever changes, I'll make sure to update this page and post the links on my website.
  • How do I start working with you?
    It’s simple. It all starts with a free, 20-minute phone consultation. During this call, I'll learn about your background and goals—and, importantly, you can ask questions of me—so we can see if we’re a good fit to work together. If it's not a good fit, I'll support you in finding the right person for you. If it is a good fit, I'll get you scheduled as soon as possible so you can get started. Get started.
  • More questions?
    Call me. I'm happy to answer any further questions you may have.

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Phone: Call or text me at (864) 319-3360.

Are you a prospective client?

I sincerely regret that I currently have a waiting list (estimate of 1 month to begin services). 

 

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Office Hours

Monday - Friday: 9 am - 5 pm

When are sessions held? 

Monday - Friday: 12 pm - 5 pm

- by appointment only -

**All sessions conducted online through a secure videoconferencing platform.**

Office Address

 

141 Traction Street, Greenville, SC 29611

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