Are you and your partner stuck in conflict? Do you or your partner resort to criticism or shutting down during conflict? When you aren't arguing, you may feel emotionally distant or disconnected, like you are leading separate lives.
I help couples restore understanding, trust, and intimacy through the following evidence-based methods:
Gottman Method Couples Therapy helps you overcome disconnection through structured, scientifically-based interventions designed to teach skills to deepen your friendship, manage conflict effectively, and create shared meaning and purpose. These skills are proven to reduce the likelihood of infidelity, breakup, and divorce.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) helps you build a close, healthy, and trusting relationship by first finding out where you and your partner get stuck when you communicate, and then by helping each of you to identify your needs and to express them in healthier ways to your partner so that you can be there for each other. As a result, you each feel more understood and accepted; and you also feel more supported. This method has proved remarkably successful in actively reducing relationship distress during therapy and also in preventing relapse to old habits after therapy is complete.
Often, a couples therapist will use only one or the other of the above methods. This can be effective for many couples. However, my couples often find it particularly helpful that I integrate both of these methods, which results in an individualized approach tailored to the particular background, preferences, and goals of each couple.
In addition to these well-tested methods, I bring warmth, humor, and compassion to the process, honoring that challenges are inherent to each relationship and that it takes courage and commitment to enter couples therapy.
If you are a member of the LGBTQ community, please know that this is a safe space for you and your partner. As an LGBTQ--affirming therapist and ally, I work diligently to help my couples heal and strengthen their relationship, whether they identify as LGBTQ or not.
I look forward to helping you and your partner reconnect.
Couples therapy is for when both individuals are motivated to work on their relationship. If one or both of you is not sure about the relationship and whether couples therapy can help, you may be a better fit for Discernment Counseling.